Sunday, March 23, 2008
At The Embassy For Your Fiance Visa Interview
The interview is pretty much a strait forward process. I was at the interview with my fianc as were many other men with their fiancs. For one thing, I wanted to be there to support her. My fianc is very emotional and I knew that she would be an emotional wreck at the interview. I was there to bolster her courage.
Also, Warsaw is a big city and I wanted to be there to accompany her in a big city she didnt know very well.
But the main reason I was there was primarily because I didnt want any last minute glitches. To use a football analogy: The ball was on the one-yard line. I was going to make sure the ball made it into the end zone.
I would never forgive myself if something went wrong at the end. I had worked too hard to get things to this point. I wasnt taking any chances.
I made airline reservations to bring my fianc home the day after our interview. I was that confident that we would get the fianc visa approved. After all, we had done everything we could to insure that the process would go smoothly.
The interview was scheduled for early morning. It took about five minutes. They asked me a number of questions such as how had we met, how long had we known each other, how many times had we met together in person.
They asked my wife the same questions in Russian that they had asked me in English. She gave them the same answers as I had given them, except in Russian. Our stories matched up. They were consistent.
After a few minutes, the man behind the glass said to her, Welcome to America!
My wife smiled and gave out a Whippee!
The man at the embassy then told us to come back at five oclock that evening to get the visa.
When we came back, we were one of six people who received a visa. Three other couples all the couples where the man accompanied his fianc to the interview were given visas.
Two other single women were given visas. Three other single women were not given visas. Their paperwork was not complete.
That night we celebrated at dinner. My wife called her mother on the phone and gave her the news.
Her mother cried and cried. She knew that it would be a long time before she would see her little girl again. She was off to America.
Recently, I have heard that some of the US embassies are not giving out fianc visas the same day that they are approved because of extra security procedures implemented since the September 11 attacks.
It is best to find out beforehand if your fianc will receive a visa the same day she has the interview so you dont make plane reservations you cant keep.
In addition, I have also heard that US embassies were slowing down the processing of all visas, including fianc visas, right after September 11. Fianc visas that might have been handled in six months are taking nine months and longer to be processed.
This backlog is supposed to be catching up as of a year later and should achieve normal processing times soon.
John Kunkle has been to Russia and CIS countries many times. He has been successfully married to his Belarussian wife for over five years. He will show you how to meet her, how to bring her home, and how to successfully survive marriage to a Russian woman.
Also, Warsaw is a big city and I wanted to be there to accompany her in a big city she didnt know very well.
But the main reason I was there was primarily because I didnt want any last minute glitches. To use a football analogy: The ball was on the one-yard line. I was going to make sure the ball made it into the end zone.
I would never forgive myself if something went wrong at the end. I had worked too hard to get things to this point. I wasnt taking any chances.
I made airline reservations to bring my fianc home the day after our interview. I was that confident that we would get the fianc visa approved. After all, we had done everything we could to insure that the process would go smoothly.
The interview was scheduled for early morning. It took about five minutes. They asked me a number of questions such as how had we met, how long had we known each other, how many times had we met together in person.
They asked my wife the same questions in Russian that they had asked me in English. She gave them the same answers as I had given them, except in Russian. Our stories matched up. They were consistent.
After a few minutes, the man behind the glass said to her, Welcome to America!
My wife smiled and gave out a Whippee!
The man at the embassy then told us to come back at five oclock that evening to get the visa.
When we came back, we were one of six people who received a visa. Three other couples all the couples where the man accompanied his fianc to the interview were given visas.
Two other single women were given visas. Three other single women were not given visas. Their paperwork was not complete.
That night we celebrated at dinner. My wife called her mother on the phone and gave her the news.
Her mother cried and cried. She knew that it would be a long time before she would see her little girl again. She was off to America.
Recently, I have heard that some of the US embassies are not giving out fianc visas the same day that they are approved because of extra security procedures implemented since the September 11 attacks.
It is best to find out beforehand if your fianc will receive a visa the same day she has the interview so you dont make plane reservations you cant keep.
In addition, I have also heard that US embassies were slowing down the processing of all visas, including fianc visas, right after September 11. Fianc visas that might have been handled in six months are taking nine months and longer to be processed.
This backlog is supposed to be catching up as of a year later and should achieve normal processing times soon.
John Kunkle has been to Russia and CIS countries many times. He has been successfully married to his Belarussian wife for over five years. He will show you how to meet her, how to bring her home, and how to successfully survive marriage to a Russian woman.
Adultery and Infidelity: Why People Cheat
As someone who makes a living giving relationship advice, I know that adultery is widespread in our culture. In fact, one study conducted by the University of Hawaii indicated that 60-70% of victims of infidelity are women. The stereotypical myths associated with such behavior include a middle-class husband purchasing a sports car and fooling around with the secretary, who is often a young blonde with whom he works closely. The unsuspecting wife, busy with care-taking and driving the kids to soccer games, is devastated by the discovery. At this point, the husband justifies his actions: It's the frequent business trips, working late into the night, and the fact that the new woman doesn't nag him. Therefore, it was bound to happen, right? Wrong.
The reality is that infidelity is most often a symptom of internal conflict within the cheating spouse which has little to with non-cheating partner. In fact, my experience as a couples and marriage therapist indicates that cheating husbands are most often running away from themselves.
Sadly, while the cheating husband may appear to be enjoying himself, by not facing his problems he is condemning himself to repeating them. In short, he's emotionally stuck. How do I know this? They tell me!
Take this following example: The husband didn't wake up one morning and suddenly choose to commit adultery. Rather the husband, doubting his self-worth and possibly tired of routine married life, becomes flattered by the attention of another, often younger, woman. Not only is the appeal of something new very exciting, but this new woman tends to have a sympathetic ear that he thinks his wife lacks. As a result, he often takes the path of least resistance and finds it easier to be with this more fun or understanding woman. Eventually, he may get divorced and even marry the new woman. Then, after a year or two, he begins to feel similarly negative about his new relationship. At which point, he begins to realize that his current relationship is not much different than his previous relationship.
Emily Kensington is a psychotherapist specializing in couples and marital therapy. Her website is http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com.
The reality is that infidelity is most often a symptom of internal conflict within the cheating spouse which has little to with non-cheating partner. In fact, my experience as a couples and marriage therapist indicates that cheating husbands are most often running away from themselves.
Sadly, while the cheating husband may appear to be enjoying himself, by not facing his problems he is condemning himself to repeating them. In short, he's emotionally stuck. How do I know this? They tell me!
Take this following example: The husband didn't wake up one morning and suddenly choose to commit adultery. Rather the husband, doubting his self-worth and possibly tired of routine married life, becomes flattered by the attention of another, often younger, woman. Not only is the appeal of something new very exciting, but this new woman tends to have a sympathetic ear that he thinks his wife lacks. As a result, he often takes the path of least resistance and finds it easier to be with this more fun or understanding woman. Eventually, he may get divorced and even marry the new woman. Then, after a year or two, he begins to feel similarly negative about his new relationship. At which point, he begins to realize that his current relationship is not much different than his previous relationship.
Emily Kensington is a psychotherapist specializing in couples and marital therapy. Her website is http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com.
